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Transcript from IMKC "I Believe I Can Lie: R. Kelly (Still) In Denia‪l‬"

(CLIP FROM “SURVIVING R KELLY”) Interviewer: What about the women that came out against him and said, "I was in an underage relationship with him". "He did this to me". "He did that"? Juror: “I just didn't believe them, the women. I know it sounds ridiculous the way they dress, the way they act. I didn't like them. I voted against, I disregarded all of what they had to say.”

Kimberlé Crenshaw: That was juror John Patrion, who in 2008 voted along with other jurors to acquit R. Kelly of all charges. These were the charges that pertain to pornographic abuse of a young girl. Last month, some 11 years after that, acquittal, R. Kelly was arrested once more. This time the charges are aggravated, criminal, sexual abuse. And now the Pied Piper is in the news yet again. This after a shocking and explosive rant during an interview with Gayle King, now Kelly has denied all charges and of course claims that he himself is a victim.

(CLIP FROM INTERVIEW) R. Kelly: I need somebody to help me not have a big heart. Because my heart is so big, people betray me and I keep forgiving them!

Kimberlé Crenshaw: Watching Kelly's indignant declaration that these are simply conspiracies to bring him down, I couldn't help but think about the gendered differences in the ways that men and women are allowed to speak about victimization. My thoughts trailed back to that juror. The idea that because Patrion didn't like the way black women dressed, didn't like the way they acted, didn't like who they were, the idea that he could vote in favor of acquitting R. Kelly was just infuriating to me, to hear it spoken so plainly without any apology, without a sense that it needs to be repackaged was just jaw-dropping for me. It was the very embodiment of the intersection of racism and sexism or what Moya Bailey calls misogynoir. I wish I could say that I was shocked by the revelation, but in fact I've encountered this sensibility many times. I think we all saw it during Clarence Thomas confirmation hearings when the Senate Judiciary Committee effectively disregarded everything in Anita Hill had to say. I also saw it when I was writing an article entitled, Mapping the Margins. When I learned that Black women are least likely to be believed when reporting sexual abuse, they're least likely to see their perpetrators arrested, least likely to see them charged, least likely to see them tried, and least likely to see them convicted. And then on the very rare occasion when their claims actually do catalyze convictions, Black women remain the least likely to see their perpetrators do significant time. I learned about jurors in open and shut cases in which perpetrators were acquitted. When jurors said things like "A Black girl from that neighborhood probably wasn't a virgin anyway." Because of who Black females are thought to b, essentially there was a rule of no harm, no foul. This in fact is a historical dimension of Black women's sexual abuse. In some states historically, rape claims were dismissed for failure to state that the victim was white. In other words, being a Black woman many times made a woman or a girl unrapeable. So when I heard this juror cavalierly dismiss the testimony of Black women over a hundred years after the end of slavery, over 50 years after the end of segregation, over 20 years after Anita Hill, when we heard a juror say that he just didn't like Black women, he just doesn't trust Black girls, it made me want to holler. I wanted to do something, demand something, break something. The good news is that I know my outrage is shared not only by Black women who have been rising up against this assault on our sexual autonomy, but now by millions who have been mobilized by activists to begin a long and necessary process of changing the narrative about Black women and sexual abuse. Now, at least in Chicago, there's a new Sheriff in town, State Attorney, Kim Fox, an African American woman and survivor. The privilege to abuse in plain sight may now, finally, because of Kim Fox and the work of so many others, carry some penalties, and this might be one of the reasons behind the meltdown that we all saw on television a few nights ago. Now, there are few people who have to be given a shout out for making this all possible, including of course the courageous women who have shared their stories. But also we have to give a shout out to Jim DeRogatis who has been lifting up their stories for years when virtually no one wanted to hear about them. Also, dream hampton who brought these stories to life and finally Kenyette Barnes and Oronike Odeleye co-founders of the MuteRKelly campaign. So I was on the road when the most recent chapter in the Kelly saga was unfolding and I sent out a Hail Mary to Kenyette Barnes when she replied and said she was available to talk to us. We quickly converted a cavernous room into a makeshift studio, and we were off and running. In our wide ranging conversation Kenyette explain that her very first act of protest against Kelly was all the way back in 2002. She was a student at Temple University and she said she saw a man selling bootleg copies of the tape, the same tape that Kelly would eventually be tried on in 2008. Kenyette Barnes: In 2002, I was a graduate student at Temple University and that's when the original tape came out. And I remember I was on the train. And there was a dude selling the bootleg copies of the VHS like right out under the train. And I had rode that train maybe three days and the third day I hopped off, I walked across the street, and I knocked the tapes all off his table. Got back up on the train, had to use another token. I had to use another token, I'll never forget that, but I was done. When I got on the train I was like, "Oh, my God. This man could have hit me. I could have been arrested. Anything could have happened". But it was the rage. It was that unmitigated rage.

(NEWS CLIP) R Kelly is batting to save his name. Police are investigating a video allegedly showing the R&B singer having sex with a 14-year-old girl.

Kenyette Barnes: They watched it because it was a girl. Because it was a girl. So, that, to me, lets me know, when I hear these guys that are now my contemporaries in their 40s and 50s that are like, "Well, let's not be so hasty". I'm like, "Brother, shut up. You were probably the one sitting up there watching that tape, so be quiet".

Kenyette Barnes: Unfortunately, the primary oppression to our girls is sexual. And sexual oppression is generally intraracial. And by discussing that, we are indeed turning the lens on our black men and we're going to have to unpack all that. We've got to unpack it. As simple as that.

Kim Crenshaw: I thought about you when I read that Kim Foxx had issued the arrest warrant for Robert Kelly and I just thought, "I need to get on the phone as soon as possible". So, where were you when you heard the news? Tell us a little bit about your reaction.

Kenyette Barnes: When I heard the news, I was actually traveling and my notifications just went haywire and I'm like, "What is going on?" They just started wilding out. I was like, "Okay, let me log on". And that's when I found out about the grand jury indictment.

Kim Crenshaw: And, just to put a spin on it, if I recall correctly, it took six years after-

Kenyette Barnes: Yes.

Kim Crenshaw: R. Kelly was initially indicted before he went to trial. I think, in this instance, it was, what? Six weeks after the airing of Surviving R. Kelly, to the indictment? So, six years, six weeks.

Kenyette Barnes: Right.

Kim Crenshaw: So, what made the difference, obviously, between those huge differences?

Kenyette Barnes: I think the difference is that, in 2002, when that tape came out, the first respond to the black community was to bootleg it and sell it and watch it. And although there were those of us who were on the ground, just outraged about it, we didn't have the ground swell of activism on a large scale, on a crossover scale, as we do now.

And I think what has happened with a combination of Tarana Burke's work and dream hampton's work with Surviving R. Kelly ... And I will also say, Mute R. Kelly, is that we've watched a seismic shift in how people began to talk about this. But even in that space, you still have detractors. And I guess, we could talk about that too, but getting back to the timeline, I think it's going to be very difficult for a DA to not take this seriously in this climate and not to be sort of called to the carpet.

Kenyette Barnes: You mentioned the sisters coming to court with him, yes they did, but did you notice that there were numerous people watching them?

Kim Crenshaw: Yes. Yes.

Kenyette Barnes: So, yes, they were there, but they were also there under watch. And how many of us, how many of our sisters are survivors of domestic abuse and you hear about it years and years later? So, when we're seeing that snapshot, there's a whole lot that we're not seeing. And I just think that we need to stop relying on the fact that ... Because some of the things that I heard, Sis, was "Oh, those red bottoms are real cute". Red bottoms? These girls are being abused.

Kim Crenshaw: Oh, Jesus, in the middle of that? And when people are saying that, what do you think they are actually saying when they talk about, the red bottoms are really cute? What's the point of that?

Kenyette Barnes: Well, for me, it really speaks to the economic state of black women. And, for many of us, we're working two and three jobs. We're hustling. Taking care of kids sometimes and we're living below the margins almost in most cases. So, things like expensive shoes and handbags and trips are kind of beyond our reach. And when we see other women who've obtained those from a partner, or a partner-like person, we see something we don't have. So, therefore, if they do have it, they're doing okay. So, despite whatever is going on in their life, hey, at least they're being taken care of. And I believe we have this connection, also, that materialism equals love. And that's another narrative that we need to start to deconstruct, because there are many women who are victims of abuse and have a horrible abusive episode, and then are taken on a trip to Jamaica.

Kim Crenshaw: Right. Usually part of the makeup, right? The cycle of abuse.

Kenyette Barnes: Yeah. It's the cycle of abuse. You have that honeymoon stage where you have the escalation and then the actual action and then the makeup honeymoon stage. And in that stage, that's usually where you're getting all these gifts.

Kim Crenshaw: And then, from the outside perspective in, what people see is, you're being well taken care of. You're getting stuff. You appear to be well cared for, so what are you complaining about?

Kenyette Barnes: Absolutely. I think it really speaks to the intersectionality, to use your term, of not only economic instability within black women, but this need for companionship. And when you see someone who appears to have both, she has everything. Why is she complaining?

Kim Crenshaw: Yeah. And I think this is one of the factors that really has to be considered in our thinking about why this was able to go for so long without widespread community outrage. I think black women are probably among the least partnered, if not the most lonely people in the United States, if not the planet. So, when you have the desire for partnering, and you define your status in terms of are you partnered or not, someone who has someone, regardless of the conditions of that partnering-

Kenyette Barnes: Exactly.

Kim Crenshaw: Still going to be seen as in a privileged position.

Kenyette Barnes: Exactly.

Kim Crenshaw: So, what are you complaining about becomes almost a default-

Kenyette Barnes: Exactly.

Kim Crenshaw: So, I think a lot of people are now grappling with the fact that black women and girls are among the least believed when they talk about sexual abuse. When it comes to prosecution, they have the highest rates of police not going forward. They have the lowest rates of having their assailants convicted. When they are convicted, their assailants get the least amount of jail time. So, we know the system actually doesn't seem to care that much about black women and girls-

Kenyette Barnes: Right.

Kim Crenshaw: But what's surprising is our own community. Their response to claims of victimization. So, I know you've been in the forefront of this-

Kenyette Barnes: I have.

Kim Crenshaw: And I recall myself, when Anita Hill stepped forward, I was on her legal team. And what was most shocking and hurtful was what people in the African American community had to say about a black woman stepping forward. And it was often not, "We don't believe something happened". It was usually, "Even if it did happen, you should sit your butt down and not say anything about it"-

Kenyette Barnes: Exactly.

Kim Crenshaw: "Because you're being a traitor to the community"-

Kenyette Barnes: Exactly.

Kim Crenshaw: "You're bringing a brother down". I call it the "save a brother" school of thought-

Kenyette Barnes: You got to save the brothers.

Kim Crenshaw: And so, a lot of this is out of that same playbook. So, I'm wondering what part of the save a brother playbook did you all encounter when you first started Mute R. Kelly?

Kenyette Barnes: Ooh, wow. Okay. So, the save a brother playbook, we encountered the most benign being, maybe a comment on a social media post, "Why are you bringing down a black man?" to the most violent kind of threats, "If I ever see you, I'm going to 'F' you up, because you're trying to just destroy the black community". And the narratives tend to fall around, "Well, this is what white supremacy wants us to do". So, it's this idea that, any attempt to hold accountable wrongdoings in the black community is an extension of white supremacy, which is a logical fallacy.

Kim Crenshaw: So, it's weaponizing anti-black racism-

Kenyette Barnes: Right. Right.

Kim Crenshaw: Against black women and girls.

Kenyette Barnes: We can't do that. Topics of misogynoir, toxic masculinity, whenever those conversations come up in this space, it's usually met with a lot of vitreal. And my co-founder Oronike and I have really experienced some disgusting backlash over this. And, for me, the more-

Kim Crenshaw: What's some examples-

Kenyette Barnes: Oh, wow.

Kim Crenshaw: Of some of the things that you all have experienced?

Kenyette Barnes: Really a lot of the social media and email backlashes. I've gotten messages calling for me to just get all my social media accounts banned, to being sued. I've been threatened that, "If I ever see you, I'm going to 'F' you up". We've had fan groups of R. Kelly come into our public space where we're talking about issues of sexual violence within the black community and just troll the page and post pictures of R. Kelly and make sort of a play on our hashtag. Instead of "Mute R. Kelly" it's "Play R. Kelly" and just the vitreal and the-

Kim Crenshaw: And Kenyette, just to be clear, are these all men?

Kenyette Barnes: No. Actually, most of them are black women.

Kim Crenshaw: Yes.

Kenyette Barnes: So, that to me, was the most surprising and heart wrenching of this campaign. And I believe we are probably the first campaign to receive that degree of backlash, other than Anita Hill. Because I remember Anita Hill. A lot of the backlash was coming from black women as well, so-

Kim Crenshaw: Well, and just to be concrete about it, which was one of the reasons I was curious about whether you were seeing the same thing in the backlash, when we were in the Capitol and came out after the first day of hearing, we saw all of these black women and we thought they had come to support Anita-

Kenyette Barnes: I recall.

Kim Crenshaw: And when we got close to them, we found, not only were they not there to support Anita, they were praying to God for Him to intervene on behalf of Clarence Thomas.

Kenyette Barnes: Yup. I remember that.

Kim Crenshaw: So, she was being framed as a Jezebel, a harleque-

Kenyette Barnes: Yes.

Kim Crenshaw: Someone who was sent by the dark side to bring down a good brother and it was just ... First of all, just heartbreaking. Heartbreaking, heartbreaking.

Kenyette Barnes: It is heartbreaking.

Kim Crenshaw: Knowing that, if the statistics are right, a significant number of those people who were standing there supporting Clarence Thomas-

Kenyette Barnes: Are survivors of sexual violence.

Kim Crenshaw: Have already been abused.

Kenyette Barnes: Yes.

Kim Crenshaw: So, number one, the fact that you can be abused and still support an abuser is a painful reality that underscores a lot of what's happening. And then, just the lack of solidarity among women and among black women in particular. So, what is your thought about-

Kenyette Barnes: Ooh, yeah.

Kim Crenshaw: Why there's so little intragender, intraracial solidarity, at least historically, on this issue and what needs to be done about that?

Kenyette Barnes: , I think, for us, many of us were taught that we caused our abuse. And, intuitively, we knew that we didn't, but in order to kind of not go crazy, in order to kind of survive in a space where we're consistently seeing our abuser, who, in some cases might be responsible for our basic needs, we had to create a narrative, believe a narrative.

And so, now that we're adults, and we're seeing advocacy for girls and young women who had the same thing happen to them as we did, I think it creates this cognitive dissonance that many of us just cannot reconcile. It's easier to lash out at my co-founder Oronike and I for daring to talk about this, than to admit that we might be sitting across the table from our sexual abuser every year at Thanksgiving dinner.

Kim Crenshaw: Yes. Yes, yes.

Kenyette Barnes: We might be going to pray at a church where our sexual abuser is the deacon or the pastor.

Kim Crenshaw: I was wondering how you thought about this. Part of the long-term dimension of this story is that people knew, knew, knew, knew, knew that this was happening, but yet it wasn't until we, as a public, saw women together, one after another, after another, after another, telling a story. And most of the stories were not new-

Kenyette Barnes: Exactly.

Kim Crenshaw: But somehow, in the aggregate, it caused something to happen that hadn't happened before. And I'm wondering what you think was going on before, when it was just story after story, after story. How come it didn't aggregate into a, "Well, this man is a predator"? Why didn't it happen then and why does it happen now?

Kenyette Barnes: Well, I think there's two reasons. One, we've developed narratives against it. So, one of the narratives is the idea of the fast girl. So, a lot of that comes into play when we come up and we are comfortable with these narratives. And one of the narratives is, "She knew better". "Why was she in that man's face?" "Well, these girls are fast and they're hot and they lie about their age and they only want money". And we're too comfortable with narratives that allow for the sexual brutality of black girls that we would never be comfortable with in any other situation.

When Larry Nassar abused those girls, immediately people saw those as girls who were preyed upon and abused. When R. Kelly abused these girls it was, "Well, why was she there? Well, why did she lie about her age? Well, these girls want money and these girls are hot" and it's like, "Stop". First of all, no 14 year old girl, despite how precocious she is ... and I'm speaking as someone who was a precocious child

For some reason I always found myself intersecting with men who did not have good intentions for me. And despite the fact that I was smart and precocious, it doesn't equal mature. And that's something we have to really be clear about. And one of the narratives that happens a lot is that we place more responsibility on not being preyed upon, groomed and raped, on 14 year old girls than we do on grown men. And it really goes back to that save a brother thing.

So, we got the save a brother and then we got the adultification thing. So, that's one reason. And the other thing ... and this is also an extension of adultification, is how the larger society views black girls. And one of the things that happened in this trial that, for me, was enraging, is that the media consistently reported these as sex tapes. And I almost ... Well, I did and I made it clear, "I refuse to give anymore interviews until you stop using the term 'sex tape,'" because what happens in that space is that we're not viewing this as what it is, and it's rape. It's sexual abuse. It's not a sex tape. A sex tape denotes consenting partners, most of the time adults, who consent to, not only the act, but also the recording-

Kim Crenshaw: Yes, right. Exactly.

Kenyette Barnes: And the control of the distribution. So, none of that happened in 2002 and none of that happened now. And when the media started reporting this as a sex tape, I was enraged. So, that was number one.

Kim Crenshaw: Yes, right.

Kenyette Barnes: The second thing, when you saw attorneys who purported to be advocates for these girls speaking about their sexual degradation in the most salacious and explicit terms, that, to me, hit a visceral nerve. And-

Kim Crenshaw: Yeah. So, just for the listeners, what are you referring to? What kind of ways were the lawyers actually participating in the degradation of the girls?

Kenyette Barnes: Well, most notably, it's the defense attorney for R. Kelly, Steven Greenberg and unfortunately, the purported advocate for some of the survivors, Michael Avenatti. And in both of their conversations about this, it was almost reduced as, these were consensual acts by the defense attorney, and then by Mr. Avenatti, it was viewed as a sex tape. And he was consistently Tweeting about these salacious details of the tapes.

Kim Crenshaw: Right. Right.

Kenyette Barnes: And as the co-founder of Mute R. Kelly, as the ... I guess, the defacto kind of lead advocate in this space on that particular issue, I had to say something.

Kim Crenshaw: Yes, yes.

Kenyette Barnes: And I did and my retort and my ask was, "Stop using the term 'sex tapes' and we have to be careful how we're discussing this in the public space and we cannot both position ourselves as advocates and then around the hand, slap down these girls and use their sexual degradation and then show up as benevolent super heroes. We can't do that".

Kim Crenshaw: Yes, exactly.

Kenyette Barnes: This is not the place-"

Kim Crenshaw: And I think and packed into that is also a dimension of white supremacy. By that I mean, if these were tapes showing the abuse of white girls-

Kenyette Barnes: You wouldn't hear that.

Kim Crenshaw: You wouldn't hear that language.

Kenyette Barnes: Not at all.

Kim Crenshaw: You just wouldn't hear that language.

Kenyette Barnes: Not at all.

Kim Crenshaw: So, I think it's a sad and frustrating example of what happens when people come into this issue-

Kenyette Barnes: Yes.

Kim Crenshaw: With only part of an analysis, right?

Kenyette Barnes: Exactly.

Kim Crenshaw: So, they're coming in to say, "Okay, we need to intervene. We've got evidence that R. Kelly did these things," but they also are holding up a certain aspect of white supremacy-

Kenyette Barnes: Absolutely.

Kim Crenshaw: That does not allow for the ability to see and articulate black girls and women as subject to abuse-

Kenyette Barnes: Absolutely.

Kim Crenshaw: And that their abuse counts, right? So, you need to have both a critique of white supremacy as well as a critique of patriarchy.

Kim Crenshaw: There's so many layers that you've been unpacking here. The layer of black women and girls first being abused, the second layer of people stereotyping them and not seeing the abuse because of the adultification of black girls, and stereotypes about the sexual autonomy of black women. And then people stepping in thinking, "Okay, I'm just going to lift you up. I don't have to make myself subject to your critique of-

Kenyette Barnes: Exactly.

Kim Crenshaw: How I might be talking about you in a stereotypical way. So, it's all this stuff going on and then, here you are in the middle of this or Oronike is in the middle of this, and the support that you think you might be receiving from other black women-

Kenyette Barnes: You're not.

Kim Crenshaw: Isn't always there and let's just add a few more layers to it-

Kenyette Barnes: Girl, we got more.

Kim Crenshaw: Our white feminist friends aren't always there. They kind of absent themselves. It's like, "Oh, it's a black thing"-

Kenyette Barnes: Oh, yeah.

Kim Crenshaw: So, our typical presence in issues having to do with sexual abuse and we're going to step back and sometimes our brothers aren't there, of course, because our group victimization is weaponized to allow abuse to continue.

Kenyette Barnes: Exactly.

Kim Crenshaw: So, there's a thicket going on.

Kenyette Barnes: Oh, yeah.

Kim Crenshaw: It's almost a miracle that you all have come to this point to at least have some reckoning. And I'm wondering, since now you do have an important platform about, what are some quick things that people need to understand, in order to move from this moment to a wider capacity, to be able to see and intervene in the victimization of black women and girls? So, as the expert, I'm going to ask you three quick things. So, number one, you've talked a few times about grooming-

Kenyette Barnes: Yes.

Kim Crenshaw: And what that looks like. And I think it would be useful for us to be able to say to women, girls, and parents ... You give the talk to the men. "The talk" about things that might happen to our sons and our brothers. What's "the talk" that has to be given to black girls?

Kenyette Barnes: I would say, not every older man or older boy who wants to buy you things has your best interest. Yes, it's nice to get your nails done. It's nice to get your hair done. It's nice to get nice handbags, but sometimes this is the precursor to them doing really bad things to you. When I reflect back on 18-year-old Kenyette, when those older men were coming to me, when those older men were telling me how mature I was and how "this" I was, that was coercion. That's what grooming looked like.

So, definitely, if you're 15, 16 years old and you have a 25-, 35-plus-year-old man approaching you with gifts, be totally aware that, for the most part, that's grooming behavior. And any man that tells you to not trust your parents, not trust your family members, not trust your friends, especially if those other relationships are not abusive, then that is truly a red flag for grooming.

Kim Crenshaw: Yes. Right. And we've been talking largely about girls, but that might give the impression that women aren't also not vulnerable.

Kim Crenshaw: And it makes me think that the strategy that R. Kelly is apparently pursuing, which is bringing the two young women that he's now with, to court to demonstrate, "Look, this is choice. This is free agency" and effectively saying, "They're trying to prosecute us for having sex". I mean, that was what was in his song, right? So, what do people need to understand?

Kenyette Barnes: Well, one, that strategy was something that the defense attorney is consistently trying to say, is that these are all consensual sexual relationships and that he just likes young women. Okay. So, let's talk a little bit about that. Whenever I hear people say, "Well, these are adults. They know better". Sis, there are 40-year-old women who get coerced and hustled and abused every day. So, there isn't-

Kim Crenshaw: Yes.

Kenyette Barnes: An age limit on being manipulated, because it has nothing to do with maturity of the victim. It has everything to do with the antisocial tendencies of the abuser. And as I've said often, if you have not experienced grooming, or coercion, or abuse, you just weren't targeted. So, consider yourself lucky, learn, and have a seat. And that's real. And so, what I would say is that, yes, we put a lot of focus on the girls. And one of the reasons why, is because we do view them as more vulnerable. Developmentally they're vulnerable. They don't really have full agency in this world. They can't really exist in a full capacity as an adult. So, we do put a lot of emphasis on the teenagers and the young women.

However, you can be 19, 20, and 25 years old, and older, and face this level of abuse and victimization. And I think we need to recognize that, it has little to do with the victim and more to do with the lack of empathy and the heightened degree of sociopathy of the abuser and-

Kim Crenshaw: Yes.

Kenyette Barnes: We have to begin to change that conversation a little bit. There are indeed-

Kim Crenshaw: Yes.

Kenyette Barnes: Monsters among us, sorry.

Kim Crenshaw: And as we're thinking about, and just having this moment of reckoning of R. Kelly, on the heels of that is now the Michael Jackson story. And I'm just wondering, what are your thoughts about how this is going to dovetail with the reckoning around R. Kelly?

Kenyette Barnes: Well, I think it's playing out in two ways. One, it's playing out as victims of sexual violence are getting their day and they're really seeing their abusers face some sort of a social accountability. The other narrative is that, why are we only attacking black men?

Kim Crenshaw: Right.

Kenyette Barnes: So, I actually made a Tweet about it this morning, because the noise just became so deafening to me that I needed to just get the energy out and say, "Look, this is not a conspiracy to only take down black sexual predators and you should only be concerned if you are a sexual predator".

So, I do believe that this is a delicate situation. We are in this space where we're unpacking a lot of our own trauma and our community beliefs about sexual violence. And I think that, while I am not happy that these conversations are happening, I am hopeful that by having these conversations, we are beginning to turn the tide with our collective silence-

Kim Crenshaw: Yes.

Kenyette Barnes: Regarding these-

Kim Crenshaw: You said earlier that R. Kelly campaign is something that has now gone national and international, but you've been an activist for a long time.

Kenyette Barnes: Yes.

Kim Crenshaw: And I think one of the things that we want to expose our audience to is the pathway to activism.

Kenyette Barnes: Yes.

Kim Crenshaw: So, what led you to want to do this work? When did you make a transition to actually thinking, "Okay, I need to say something. I need to do something". What led you to be this-

Kenyette Barnes: Wow.

Kim Crenshaw: Intersectional activist?

Kenyette Barnes: Girl, actually living 40-plus years as a black woman. But um, I think for me, it really just started with seeing these little minute issues within the black community that always were something I didn't understand. I mean, even as a young girl, I remember the conversations about race and how we had to stand up against racial inequality and white supremacy, but then I would often see these same men abusing their wives or being accused of child molestation and then I would hear about ... especially some of the Panthers and some of the older civil rights guys. Some of the horrible things that they did to women. And also the marginalization of women within those spaces.

Kim Crenshaw: Yes.

Kenyette Barnes: So, that was just something that was always odd for me. And this is me as a little girl, just kind of seeing and hearing these narratives. And the first time I heard about Eldridge Cleaver, I might have been 10 or 11 and it was just really odd for me that, "Well, this guy said he was really about the liberation of black people, but then he was raping and sexually abusing black women and girls". And I just didn't understand it.

And also, I heard a lot about white supremacy and how you have to be untrusting of white people, but then, like many black people, I lived in a community, although it was pretty integrated, it was mostly black and all of the kind of oppressive things that I experienced or that my friends experienced as black women tended to come from other black people. And I'm like, "Well, if we are afraid, or we are concerned about white people, why is it that my friends are being molested and raped and beaten by black men. And, is that okay?"

And at one point, I'll be honest, I just accepted, that's just part of being a black woman. And that was the hardest thing for me to accept, that this is just what it's about. This is the legacy of enslavement that we now have to just accept that our black men are so beaten down that we can't really hold them accountable because we're just another person that's beating them down.

Kim Crenshaw: And what broke you out of that? Because I think many people will hear that and their heads will be nodding.

Kenyette Barnes: We're talking-

Kim Crenshaw: So, something pushed you away from that.

Kenyette Barnes: Yes.

Kim Crenshaw: What was it?

Kenyette Barnes: It was my own abuse. And one of the reasons why I kind of am in this space with R. Kelly now. I was a model when I was a teenager, so I did some catalog work and some runway work, but mostly catalog work and photography. And it was when I was exploited by a child pornographer. And it happened in such a way that ... I talk about grooming and coercion. I walked into a space that I had walked into several times before with a photographer and something changed and something happened within the midst of that photo shoot. And it went from photos for a portfolio to explicit photos of me that, when I got the proofs back, I never saw.

Kim Crenshaw: Oh.

Kenyette Barnes: So, there are 50-plus pictures that I have never seen, but I knew that they were taken of me. And then later, as I began to kind of unpack all of that, I realized that there were these huge child pornography underground rings of pedophiles that would share pictures. Now, this is back in the '80s, so ... This happened in '87 or '88.

Kim Crenshaw: And how old were you at the time?

Kenyette Barnes: 17. And so, one would say, "Well, guess what? You were old enough to know better" and I'm like, "No, I wasn't". And my 40-plus-year-old self would walk into a space like that and would know when the shift happened and would immediately stop and end. My 17-year-old self didn't. And that's, that’s the grooming, the coercion, the lack of agency part that we don't talk about.

And so, for me, I think that was kind of where, one, I stopped modeling. I just stopped. And never really talked about why I did, but that was the reason why I did. And even to this day, I'm very uncomfortable with people taking pictures of me without my knowledge or I need to see all of the pictures.

I recently did a photo shoot for new head shots, and I had this conversation with the photographer, beautiful brother, in Atlanta, Georgia, Quadir Thomas. He was very professional and very understanding, but before the shoot started, we had to have that conversation.

Kim Crenshaw: Yes.

Kenyette Barnes: And we're talking 30 years later, we're having this conversation. And he was like, "I didn't know and I'm sorry". And he said, "Well, here's what we're going to do. Anything you're uncomfortable about, you tell me". And the shoot was very well done, but it was that experience that for me, really started to shape that, "Wait a minute, it wasn't a white person who did that to me". And ironically, I remember the studio in East Cleveland, Ohio. He had Malcolm X pictures on his wall and the picture of Malcolm and Martin and it's like, "Wait a minute". It was Malcolm, Martin, and Elijah Muhammad. I remember that picture. And I'm like, "Wait a minute. We're sitting up here with civil rights icons and you do this to me".

Kim Crenshaw: Well, I'm so appreciative of the time that you've been able to step back-

Kenyette Barnes: Thank you.

Kim Crenshaw: For a moment from being on the front lines.

Kim Crenshaw: I want to thank you on behalf of millions who are hopeful that, with this reckoning of R. Kelly will come a wider conversation in our nation and in our community about the imperative to lift up what's happening to black women and girls. So, thank you. Thank you to Oronike and thank you, on behalf of all of us, for taking this time to join us on Intersectionality Matters.

Kenyette Barnes: You're welcome and thank you for inviting me. It was my pleasure.

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